Couples Therapy
Compassionate, culturally affirming, and trauma-informed couples counseling for BIPOC and LGBTQ+ communities.
Specialities: Improving Communication | Rekindling Connection | Managing Conflict | Moving through Trauma
In Sacramento, CA and across all of California
Couples Counseling at Pachamama Therapy Collective | Sacramento, CA
You can’t seem to remember the last time that you and your partner shared a moment of deep connection. Perhaps you’re still hurting over the long-ago rupture that you never really healed from.
You know, the one that tends to come up by the end of every big argument. Every. Single. Time.
Or maybe it’s your partner who’s hurting and you don’t know what else to do because no matter what you say, it never feels like enough. You thought that things would get better with time.
(Because, sometimes that’s all you need, right?)
Yet, you’re looking back and realizing that ‘time’ has only opened the door for more arguments, more disconnection, more pain. You want something different, but you’re just not sure how to get there.
Relationships have a beautiful way of showcasing our greatest strengths - yet a funky way of illuminating our hidden pains.
We get that.
We understand that occasional conflict and disconnection is common (and to be expected) - and at the same time, we also recognize that sometimes, there are moments in our relationships that just. feel. (too). hard.
COUPLES THERAPY CAN HELP.
Working with a skilled couples therapist can support you and your partner in:
Understanding the common “dance” (or pattern) that manifests when you and your partner experience moments of conflict, tension, or disconnection.
Identifying you - and your partner’s - met and unmet needs (because yes, we all have needs and that’s more than okay).
Developing tools for healthy, consent-centered communication - so that those “hard conversations” don’t feel so hard anymore.
Strengthening rituals and practices to deepen intimacy and emotional bonding.
If it feels like you and your partner are falling into cycles that feel harsh, unsatisfying, frustrating, or tensioned, then that’s usually an indication that your relationship could use a bit of support and guidance.
We can support your relationship get back to a place that feels healthy, satisfying, and secure.
OUR APPROACH TO COUPLES COUNSELING
Relational & affirming.
Trauma-informed & somatic-based.
Anti-oppressive & culturally humble.
Gentle, direct, & collaborative.
& most of all, humanizing.
The essence of the way that we approach couples counseling is rooted in using anti-oppressive, culturally-affirming, justice-oriented, and evidence-based therapy tools.
We create space to understand the ways that our personal upbringing, relationship templates, gender socialization, cultural/societal “norms,” and personal, collective, and generational traumas - all inform the way we show up in connection to each other, especially our partner(s).
We honor that each partner we meet arrives with their own needs, boundaries, relational styles, and lived experiences - and therefore our approach will always be personalized and tailored to meet the both of you exactly where you are.
In addition to supporting couples and partners improve communication, better manage conflict, and rebuild intimacy, we also support couples and partnerships with the following:
Supporting the journey and transition of your partner’s sexual orientation or gender identity.
Opening up your relationship and exploring different relationship structures.
Navigating life transitions (e.g., career, family expansion).
Moving away from co-dependency and (unhappy) entangled ways of living
Co-deciding whether or not to transition out of a romantic partnership.
Uncoupling, with intention.*
At Pachamama Therapy Collective, we’re here to meet you wherever you are on your journey and support you - and your relationship - every step of the way.
*a note to those uncoupling
We’re all about supporting romantic partners move through their difficulties and deepen their together-ness. & we’re also aware that, sometimes, relationships end. Because they have to, because they want to. & we’re here to support those collectives too.
Because - despite popular belief - relationships do not need to come with toxic endings.
Because an ending can, in fact, involve lots of love, care, and tenderness. & it should. You, your partner, and your relationship deserve that. So, if you and your partner(s) are in this place and are seeking a space to navigate your journey of intentional uncoupling, we’re here for you, too.
At Pachamama Therapy Collective, we support couples and partners (in all forms of relationship structures) in addressing unresolved tension and conflict, acquiring healthy communication skills, and reigniting their connection and intimacy.
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